from Tantric Mysticism of Tibet…John Blofeld

the concept of "Suffering"

"As we have seen, the Buddhist term 'duhkha', of which 'suffering' is the usual translation, actually has a much wider connotation.  Perhaps 'unsatisfactoriness' is closer, but it lacks the force to cover all the meanings of duhkha, which include giving rise to disappointment, disillusion, discontent, longing, desire, aversion, loss, sorrow, anxiety, shame, pain, decay, illness, death and many more.  Whereas impermanence and lack of own being are passive qualities,  'suffering'  (i.e. giving rise to suffering)  relates to the action of one entity upon another.  To be without or to have too little of something we desire is suffering, to be forced to put up with what we dislike is suffering;  the diminution or loss of our loved ones, powers and possessions is suffering;  and the disenchantment which so often follows the fulfillment of desire is suffering.  Of course, physical, mental and emotional satisfactions frequently give us joy, but joy can seldom balance duhkha; disillusion is commoner than ecstasy;  most joys pall with frequent repetition and may give place to boredom or disgust;  moreover it is our nature to be discontented with our gains and to set our targets ever higher.  Want feeds on the satisfaction of want.  Snatching at what we took to be nuggest of gold, we find ourselves grasping a handfull of autumn leaves that turn to dust in our hands.  During most of our waking hours we are plagued with a vague or explicit need for something or other, big or small, to complete the happiness of the moment.  This desire can now and then be quenched, but not for long.  Perhaps it could be said that duhkha is the 'sense of lacking', i.e. lacking whatever it is that is needed for our full enjoyment now or in the future."

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23 responses to “duhkha”

  1. deb Avatar

    jeez…all along I was thinking “oy”

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  2. grace Forrest Avatar

    “during most of our waking hours we are plagued with a vague or explicit need for something or other, big or small, to complete the happiness of the moment. This desire can now and then be quenched, but not for long.
    Perhaps it could be said that duhkha ‘is the sense of lacking’, i.e. lacking whatever it is that is needed for our full enjoyment now or in the future.”

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  3. Robyn Ayaz Avatar
    Robyn Ayaz

    First response – OMG, there must be so much suffering in that case; second thought – what can be done to alleviate that suffering? how do we live without suffering? or is it a necessary part of existence? It is a very succinct description of most developed societies who are devoured by a constant perceived lack of something or other. Is “lack” a motivator? a sign of moral bankruptcy? Jeez Grace this could be a whole blog on its own!!!!! How did the milking go?

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  4. grace Forrest Avatar

    just now, just a moment ago
    i fell
    i fell into the complete and total Moment.
    i listened to goats breathe, mutter the soft sounds they do to
    call their kids.
    after a long, LOOONG day of
    work
    sweat
    thinking
    talking
    doing
    i end with these sounds. Goats. animal/human
    in partnership with living. Living.
    and that cloth tha came from the walnut pot………………..

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  5. elizabeth fortes Avatar
    elizabeth fortes

    Dear Grace – thanks for posting this today. I’ve been in the midst of duhkha up till now, in spite of everything beautiful and still summery around here. Yes, the source of duhkha is every moment we think we know what this whole “life trip” is all about… Remember…says Ram Dass….and his friends…. Take good care! Love, e.

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  6. Nancy Avatar

    Oh, man, Grace.

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  7. Michelle Avatar
    Michelle

    emerging from my retreat to say the sun is streaming through second growth purple phlox, Indigo rags drying on a line strung between two old trees, slugs line the outdoor cats feeding station, a beautiful mouse served as breakfast to one hungry feline, mourning doves gather seed, the black walnut trees gave no fruit this year, my right hand aches and I lack nothing, not even the love I’m sending out to you right now, which only increases with each departure.

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  8. saskia Avatar

    duhkha isn’t necessary, nor is joy.
    however to reach that point in life, to attain enlightenment and therefore truly see all, joy, duhkha etc. is a long path….am not quite there yet, and having suffered at various points in my life up to now and I expect there will be more, I have come to realise this: moments pass, always; how long I choose to dwell on my moments of suffering and joy is up to me
    more and more I try (try) to live Now, Every Moment and Accept the moments and Let Go.

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  9. dee Avatar

    being seated in the moment often means suffering… although maybe not the suffering of trying not to notice one’s suffering. thanks for this quote, Grace – I feel like had it been cut and paste on to my yesterday, it would have served as a better and more apt text than what I came up with.
    PS Yesterday I found out that a neighbhor died after a brief and furious dance with cancer… seems like I just saw him walking his dog. Not older than I. It’s one of those reminders that every day is precious.
    Every day is precious – just to wake up to that wd change everything.

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  10. saskia Avatar

    ..and also, luck has a lot to do with it, I mean these days (f.e.in selfhelpbooks)we are meant to think WE ALONE are responsible for our happiness and suffering, like we’re in control, but oftentimes you’re hit by suffering, and you can’t do Anything about it, ‘cept live through it.

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  11. jude Avatar

    i don’t know.

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  12. Athena Avatar

    Yet, in this moment, we are all that we need to be and have all that we need to have. Finding that there is no duality between no suffering and no end to suffering…and at the same time finding and losing ourselves.

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  13. grace Forrest~Maestas Avatar

    there seems to be an Increase in “awareness” of how all
    this Is…pervailing? for many?

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  14. grace Forrest~Maestas Avatar

    thank you for emerging……Love,

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  15. grace Forrest~Maestas Avatar

    yes. it is the dwelling. the attachment.

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  16. grace Forrest~Maestas Avatar

    we Can’t. just See it. day by day, year by year, develop
    a soft gaze for ALL OF IT.

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  17. grace Forrest~Maestas Avatar

    IMPORTANT WORDS:
    “the suffering of trying not to notice one’s suffering”
    again…the Clarissa Pinkola Estes paraphrase:
    ‘stand and face what you know’

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  18. grace Forrest~Maestas Avatar

    and after standing and facing, saying
    i don’t know.

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  19. grace Forrest~Maestas Avatar

    THANK YOU!…: “FINDING NO DUALITY BETWEEN NO SUFFERING AND NO END TO SUFFERING…AND AT THE SAME TIME FINDING AND LOSING OURSELVES”
    AND AT THE SAME TIME, FINDING AND LOSING OURSELVES
    AND AT THE SAME TIME, FINDING AND LOSING OURSELVES.

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