ok.

the weather couldn't have been better.  highs around 60, lows in the 20's.  Sun shine.  and the first part of the week i figured out how to deal with the Goat feed issue.  Arranged to buy good grass hay (for a dollar more! than the alfalfa was) and researched to see if the addition of goat pellet feed (and how much) and free choice minerals (and how much) would work.  i think we are going to be ok.  what they Will miss is the crunchiness of the alfalfa stems.  Remember, goats are browsers…like deer.  they need crunch.  twigs,  crispy things.  So to compensate for that,  i will need to scrounge downed cottonwood branches in the bosque…along the river.  There.  ok then.  But, this is even More of a commitment.  so i thought it is time to really take a long look at it all.  So i went back to an old "practice" i used to use a lot, but haven't for years.  I sit, as long as it takes, as many "sessions" as it takes and "open" to visualizing my life as a Story.  a novel.  with a central character who is someone a lot like me.  and i watch the story play out….beginning always at the beginning and going through all the stages, the chapters so far.  And the trickiest part is when i reach the present.  How do i see "her" going forward?  What is next for "her"?  and i realized that this novel of mine probably could be said to be in Three Parts.  Birth to young adulthood.  Young adulthood through say maybe mid 40's to the ……………present.  and now, here i am at Part III.   it would be a blank page in the book, with only the black type:  Part III.  So…what's next? 

and what i kept coming back to, of all the possibilities,  was:  keeping goats.  Learning goats.  Learning to make food by keeping goats.   And  growing food.  storing food that is grown, which i've done a lot of in the past but not for the last 2 or 3 years.  And,   ~Cloth~.  

These three things. 

so for 2 days,  i practiced a Perfect Day that included these three things.  and the days Were, yes,  Perfect.   so…i have decided.  done deal.  this of course takes into account the occurance of the Unforseen…."you never know", as the main character in Arundhati Roy's beautiful book, The God of Small Things says.  "You never know.  it's best to be prepared".  and i think for me, the way to be prepared is to always remember that "you never know".

i spent a lot of hours working with the composting of the raised beds:

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from just outside the doe fencing

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it's already decomposing

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the looooong compost bed.  nothing will be planted here.  it's just for making compost.   6×30 ft.

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a small space, for climbing beans  8×3 ft

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just to the right of the one before, the corner that begins the strip along the house.  shaded, wetter.

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more along the house.  again, shaded, wetter by nature.

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raised bed.  20×6 ft  right now filled with a few mouldy bales of alfalfa in addition to the manure.

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new experimental cold frame

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raised bed along the West house yard fence  12 x 4ft

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the long strip along the outside of the house yard  3×40 ft.  something there that the goats wouldn't be interested in…maybe onions?  used to be tomatoes.  tomatoe plants are toxic for goats.

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and on the floor…a scrap smaller than the size of a dime, but the Perfect scrap for a clump of grass for she who lures crows.

and then…the Unforseen:

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so…typepad didn't want to let me reduce size of these pics tonight.  and so it goes.

 

 

 

 

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54 responses to “Developmental stages…Life Stages…Part III (?)”

  1. Valerianna Avatar

    Lots of space to grow food and some of the best on-site manure, that looks promising! Not so here. I think I might have to give up. Last year’s kale and collard crop was pretty much a dud. Forest gardening… hmmm. Mushrooms and mosses and such, yes.

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  2. grace Forrest Avatar

    i wish i could grow mushrooms. there was a woman once at our farmer’s market that said she was going to try. in her basement.
    but she didn’t come back.
    the Best garden i ever had in Michigan was with goat manure.
    i love the thought that when we are gone from here, everywhere they were will be transformed from Sand to fertile earth. but then again, i wonder what that “means”?…??????, in terms of how our presence leaves a Mark. hmmmm.

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  3. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    I read this quote in a book review last night. For me, it mirrors the Pausing that you write about today. Her name is Mary Ruefle and in her new book of essays she says this: “we each only really speak one sentence in our lifetime. That sentence begins with your first words , toddling around the kitchen, and ends with your last words…in a nursing home, the night-duty attendant vaguely on hand. Or, if you are blessed, they are heard by someone who knows you and loves you and will be sorry to hear the sentence end.”
    I think your Pausing is a way of making sure you are still in the right conversation with yourself, and I just love that.

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  4. grace Forrest Avatar

    this is very beautyFull…these words you give here.
    and i am thinking. i am thinking deep and long….
    and what Would that Be?, my one sentence? this is Great.
    What would it Be???????
    i am 67 years. and as i write that and look at that
    and hear the echo of it in my mind, that’s OLD. when
    i read of someone in the news, or in a book or something and they are 60 something years, i have a certain image
    of that…old. but what i actually AM, is just a
    continuation of what i have always been. As yet…knock
    on wood, i notice no lessening, no decline…in urge, in energy, in self in general. actually, i have more of all those things because i think i have found a life that works for me and i am commited to live it as well as i can. so…this Part III is really blank. so far. what
    words will fill the pages?….what primary sentence?
    THANK YOU for this…
    love,

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  5. Valerianna Avatar

    Even a butterfly makes waves in the atmosphere…

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  6. grace Forrest Avatar

    and here…it should be an individual Post, but here. for starters.
    i am so thinking of Jude tonight. her mother. Jude and her
    mother.
    and something i am Adamant about.
    that our Lives are our own responsibility. as is our old age.
    our decline. our deaths.
    they are our OWN responsibility. not for our children to manage,
    to wade through.
    i have very few opinions, i think, really. but i have a very
    strong opinion about this.
    and so..i suppose how this relates here, is that Part III is
    the beginning of when i work
    to take responsibility for this part…what is most likely the
    last part of the story. the last part of the book. it might take
    a while. but it is the culmination of all that has come before it.
    and i intend it to be Fair and Good. Good for the well being of
    the Whole.

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  7. Nancy Avatar

    Julie this is quite a beautiful quote. Thank you for sharing it.

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  8. Nancy Avatar

    Grace, I am younger than you by 14 years, so I am busy thinking of the what will I be doing for the next 10+ years (at least). But I am also in a mental planning place of what I would like to share with my children or what I need to prepare so it will be easiest on my children. I, coincidentally, today began with a contact list. I remember taking care of phone calls and business when my mama passed. It showed me I need to have some things easily accessible for them.
    I too feel like I am at a crossroads, of sorts. This aging thing fascinates me. The different stages, phases. Most of me new co-workers are in their 40’s or much younger, many with young to teen aged children…such different places to be.
    I know, I’m just rambling here 🙂
    I was thinking of these things today too.
    Love to you Grace as you stand ready on the blank page!

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  9. kaite Avatar
    kaite

    Ah yes, the goat manure, i had forgotten about that blessing… your garden possibilities look grand and the goats can eat the finished bean stalks and pea stalks, maybe some leaves and twigs too….do you have apple or pear trees there? you will be busy but you know that already. Love to you

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  10. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    Maybe not so blank after all because it seems to me that the hardest decision, to keep the goats or not, has been made. So it will follow then, the food growing, the food keeping, things that you always have done and most of all, the cloth telling, for all of these make up the story of you, your land, your place in this planet. It will be a rich unfolding, these last chapters, and we are all the better for the fact that you will share them here…

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  11. Robyn Ayaz Avatar
    Robyn Ayaz

    What big decisions you are able to make with your story telling, I am silent with admiration (well, almost silent, ha)! This life you have told sounds GOOD, satisfying in every way – it is interesting how we never see ourselves as “old”, isn’t it? Even though physically I am not great, at 62 I don’t feel old in the slightest and feel quite offended if I am treated as such. I love your garden space – I can so imagine you there, growing all kinds of things, resting in the shade, and then a few hours of stitching – BLISS!
    Hugs.

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  12. Mo Crow Avatar

    I love being a crone & these are the golden years! as Keith Richards said so well a few years back,
    “Getting old is a fascinating thing. The older you get, the older you want to be.”
    This week I am in love with this version of You Got the Silver from the film Shine a Light
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TAsWMBZKAcI

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  13. saskia Avatar

    ah, to look at your life in the sun, the same sun that shines over here in our white world
    and you digging and composting, I’m really enjoying seeing you so busy, just doing what you do

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  14. kaite Avatar
    kaite

    extra thoughts: as i walked down the road i saw the wild lucerne (alfalfa) growing on the side of the road here and wondered if there was any like that up your way, or alternatively you could try growing a little just for extra treats for the goats. I’ve grown it and it basically looks after itself, it’s very easy just toss some alfalfa seeds around.

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  15. grace Forrest Avatar

    i have so many thoughts about this. it’s maybe the one
    thing i have a Soap Box for.
    and i am too tired this evening to take it on, but will,
    off and on.
    i think our lives are ours to LIVE when we are able,
    as we go along. if we find ourselves limp at the end of
    it…then that is our responsibility, not the responsibility of our children or any one else, for that
    matter, to make it all feel ok.
    whether we feel ok or not is OUR OWN RESPONSIBILITY.
    and this occurs long before those days of diminishment.
    LOOOOONG.
    and also…i think the dialoge with those who love us and
    are maybe going to be still able when we are not….that
    dialog MUST be ongoing and HONEST.
    one of the phrases that drives me nuts is: “if something
    happens to me”. OH, ACK and WHA and EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
    OF COURSE something is going to happen to All of Us.
    it’s the only given aside from that we were Born! oh,
    Jeez.

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  16. grace Forrest Avatar

    kaite…2 winters ago we had a Strange and Horrible Winter.
    it went to 17 degrees below zero…unheard of. many of
    my bushes and trees died. i was unbelievably Sad. all that i had planted and cared for. so..no. there is one
    Native Plum living and one Grandmother apricot. the
    apricot is toxic to goats.
    busy, yes. but i am looking really closely at what has
    real meaning. and it’s a kind of busy ness that feels
    worthwhile to me. thank you for your love…that has
    meaning too.

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  17. grace Forrest Avatar

    i will find out about your thoughts here. we do have
    a WEED, kochia, which is rampant and also, has the same
    protien content as alfalfa. i am really looking closely
    at this. i’ll keep you posted on what i find out.
    xoxo

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  18. grace Forrest Avatar

    marti…that’s one of the things i love about the blog.
    Putting things OUT THERE. this tends to hold me to
    my Best…not daydream my days away. if i say i am going
    to do something here, i have company in that and will be more likely to follow through.
    We’ll see.
    LOVE

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  19. grace Forrest Avatar

    well, bliss…hmmmm. not, but i can’t imagine anything
    else i’d rather be doing.
    and the Old thing…that’s such a loaded thought. year
    wise, i AM old. it’s just a fact. but more, it’s what
    i am doing with my days. and THAT fact is that i am
    doing MORE and a more mindfull way than ever. so, it’s
    complicated.
    xoxo

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  20. grace Forrest Avatar

    i love ALL of my life. so much of it was a challenge, too.
    but i love how it’s all working out to be
    Today.
    so…age…it’s just where i’ve gotten to. so far.

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  21. grace Forrest Avatar

    probably like how i like watching your life on your blog.

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  22. Deb G Avatar

    There is so much that I love here in this post… I’m just going to respond in one place because it’s been a long long day. The cycle of garden and goat and manure, so important. I have the chickens just as much for the manure they add to the garden as the eggs. Each are just as important. Love seeing that with the goats too. The practical-ness of it all. And aging… my mother asked my eighty seven year old grandmother (her mother-in-law) who lives in a senior apartment complex right now, if she wanted to come live with her and Dad. Grandma has lived close to them before, in a trailer next to their house after my grandfather died when they were in their 60’s. My grandmother who is deaf and losing her sight more and more and has vertigo when she bends over…she pauses for a moment and then tells my mother, “No. I think I’ll stay here and fight with my neighbors some more.”

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  23. grace Forrest Avatar

    Deb…THANK YOU beyond thank you for your comment. yes.
    the manure. i feed them. they produce little round
    pellets from butt holes that remind me of Pez dispensers.
    it’s quite wonderful. not squishy at all. and FULL
    of nutrients and THRILL for all the microbes that live in
    this desert sand. i am really INTO watching this, learning about composition of soil and what that means to
    an Eco system. and IS this then, a faux eco system? or
    WHAT?
    serious business, this.
    and your Grandma…bless her. oh, BIG bless her. i am
    thinking that we all have a life. years upon years, if we get to those 80’s. it really feels to me like we need
    to be RESPONSIBLE for how we spend that time. to know
    that it has a point when we have little we can DO. so…
    to take that as our mandate. DO! whatever it is that
    you love and feel worthy. DO it. and when you can’t,
    let others who Can, continue. accomodate THEM. they
    are in the middle of the DOING.
    the other phrase that really bugs me is
    “stay in my own home”. bullshit. you have BEEN in your
    own home. YEARS, probably. what about those who may have
    not even had that opportunity? or those who struggle to
    keep a home?
    oh…well, wha and eee.
    LOVE…..

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  24. jude Avatar

    i love dirt. and how it all happens

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  25. grace Forrest Avatar

    yes. and we ALL need to love dirt. we can’t live
    without dirt.
    i was remembering this week about the first time there
    were
    worms
    in the dirt here. i was ecstatic. really. i jumped
    and whirled and sang and and and…..WORMS!!!!!!!
    I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT!, but there they were. redish pink, pinkishredish, squirmy and oh so just Elegant.
    i thought the desert didn’t have worms. but then i went
    to a thing up in Magdalena mountains about cold frames
    and that woman had worms.
    so…i believed
    and kept adding adding adding to the SAND here and
    Lo
    and
    Behold
    one spring, as i was digging in the horse manure i’d
    dragged home in feed bags, digging it in……..
    a
    WORM!!!!!
    and someone told me that the Entire Earth has worms. just that if the conditions are not right near the surface, they
    stay way down.
    but if conditions become right, Ta Da!!!!!!!!!!!
    i was so thrilled that i wanted to do all my gardening
    with my hands, not a shovel or a hoe…not something that might hurt “my” worms, but softly, with my hands.

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  26. Chris Linton Avatar

    Is that a big conch shell sitting on your raised bed?

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  27. nemo-ignorat Avatar

    grace, you are making earth magic. soil is so precious. only few people realize that fertile soil is only a few centimeters thick and it is eroding so fast if you don’t take care of it. so, go on, make your magic with the elements and rejoice. i cheer with you for every worm you see and welcome.

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  28. nemo-ignorat Avatar

    oh, what I forgot: there is a mushroom company in the US called fungi perfecti http://www.fungi.com/. (I know, they are closer to Deb than you but still closer than the companies I know here in Germany g) I stumbled across them a few weeks ago because they sell the reprint of a very good mushroom dyeing book (Miriam Rice. Mushrooms for Dyes, Paper, Pigments & Myco-Stix) Maybe you can find some publication from them in your local lib – if it still exists that is. In any case, you might want to have a look at their website.
    I tried shiitake a few years back. But it’s like having another licing member of the family to take care of and there are already a few depending on me so I’m afraid, I was not a good mushroom momma and they died. Maybe one day, when things are getting a bit slower around here.

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  29. mimmin dove Avatar
    mimmin dove

    Reading about goats and dirt and worms and loving it all. Your post is a joy. I need to make a blog to help keep me on track and stop me dreaming and wandering and not achieving. You put me to shame Grace. xoxo

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  30. patricia Avatar

    there is so much content here. too much for a reply other than this, here i’ll need to return. Over and Over again. the wisdom. yes. and the practicality of direction. yes. thank you dear Grace.

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  31. jude Avatar

    a shovel full of dirt here is like a bowl of living spaghetti..

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  32. Mo Crow Avatar

    Hi again! back in the mid 70’s when so many of us wild young things moved to the Rainbow Region in northern NSW two of my best friends with the beginning of their young family moved onto an 8 acre piece of very steep land at the top of the ridge that an old Italian couple had turned into a hand terraced oasis with a one room shack and a couple of rainwater tanks after they had retired from banana farming. The old folk lived there from the age of 60 to 80 when they got too old to look after the place & their kids wanted to sell it. My friends who were in their mid 20’s at the time had to let the 4 acres of bananas go and turn back into rainforest as they couldn’t maintain it. The other 4 acres of terraces now have big old Macadamia nuts, olives, passionfruit vine tunnels and a wonderful assortment of tropical fruit trees that have kept them happy and well for the last 37 years. Now more than ever we all have to look after our precious earth!
    NB isn’t it amazing how worms appear like magic, they do all the work for us we don’t do much digging at all in our gardens just lots of mulching to keep the soil happy.

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  33. Dee Avatar

    this may be kind of random, but this morning I was remembering the photo of you as a 19 year old… how you sd it expressed who you really are, in a way. I’ve been thinking about that, on and off, ever since. This morning, I went looking for a photo of me around that age, one that maybe expressed who I feel myself to be. And first of all – there are very FEW pictures. But I picked a B&W self-portrait taken in my ‘creating room’ – I lived alone in a third story apt. in Pittsfield and put my bed in the living room so that I could mess up the bedroom with paper, collage, ink & paint (this was decades before I would come to a place of thinking of myself – kind of sort of — as an artist – so interesting to recall THAT).. anyway, I misplaced the photo this morning, between being upstairs and bathing/dressing and coming down here and beginning my screen-time, phone calls, breafast making etc. So, I know I am avoiding something. And it might be as simple as discovering just how far from the life I thought I would be living that I am living. When I was 19 I was taking an intercession class from a crone in the hills outside of Northampton, learning to spin with a drop-spindle, and dying the yard with goldenrod. I probably thought I’d have sheep or bees or at least a huge garden. Well, enough for now. Your exercise sounded fascinating and I just love the truth that you live by!

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  34. Dee Avatar

    yarn. not ‘yard’… Pittsfield came after college. spinning was during.

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  35. Dee Avatar

    I left a long comment and it seems to have vanished. Oh well. I’ll just say, “Hi Grace”… I was thinking about you and your 19 year old self picture today.

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  36. Dee Avatar

    and NOW they show up?! This has happened before. I refreshed. I closed the blog, and came back – still no comments, but when I comment again, there they are?!! WTF?

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  37. grace Forrest Avatar

    worms are so, a indicator. to have worms is to
    have Life.

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  38. grace Forrest Avatar

    it is!…i had hoped it would show up better….but,
    you SAW it…great! funny, huh, a big conch here….
    but this was a salt bed at some point

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  39. grace Forrest Avatar

    we are cheering, then, yes, we Are! they are magnificant,
    those worms. working/living.
    i love them so much

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  40. grace Forrest Avatar

    THIS is great and i will look. i love mushrooms and it
    would be such an amazement to learn how to let them
    grow??? under the house?, maybe????? it’s not impossible..

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  41. grace Forrest Avatar

    oh, shame…
    dig a hole and bury that shame.
    then
    make a Blog!, YES! it makes a difference…..people
    are THERE, caring and going along With you….
    DO IT!
    xoxoxo

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  42. grace Forrest Avatar

    yes…direction. we all need it and we all need
    each other as we go along………….

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  43. grace Forrest Avatar

    Dee…it’s something. Life. and i really can’t know
    for anyone else. but for me, there is this felt sense
    that says YES, Go This Way. and i can’t do anything
    other than that.
    so i don’t know.
    i love very much reading this about you. and i will
    wait to see if it pulls you in some way……

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  44. grace Forrest Avatar

    YES!!!!!
    they are here and i read again, the comment, the missing
    of the comment…
    to change from where you are at this point would be
    very huge.
    and maybe it’s that you need to be where you are and
    still be that person?
    i feel a little uhhhh, un tethered to Earth tonight…
    so i will read all this again in the morning…with SUN
    coming through. Moon makes me very Light.
    LOVE to you………….
    and just one more word
    Choice.

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  45. nance Avatar

    our mushroom lady at the market sells blocks of compost that have mushroom spores … i have grown them in the basement… shitake mushrooms. really beautiful… have photos somewhere. they have to be cool and moist.

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  46. nance Avatar

    well i must mention that little scrap of grass being perfect in a perfect day. its just the right size for the cloth and of course is a clump of wonderful grass not a scrap of cloth. just perfect.

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  47. grace Forrest Avatar

    Yes! i remember you talking about that. well….i don’t
    know. how cool is cool? moist i could do…but it’s
    the cool part. but, under the north side of the house…
    maybe???? do you still have the “directions”? if so
    what is the temp of cool?
    oh..THANK YOU! FOR REMINDING ME THAT YOU DID THIS!!!!
    today, the whole under house was dug up in trenches
    to re pipe it and put in two no freeze outlets so the
    goats would always have water no matter what.
    it’s Bill again, Alz Betty’s son.
    love to you

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  48. grace Forrest Avatar

    i love hearing this story of that land…of who came to
    it and Cared.
    today, i found the great old Ruth Stout “Gardening Without
    Work”. leafing through. her and Mansanobu Fukuoka’s
    One Straw Revolution.
    i am feeling Beginners Mind all over again.
    xoxo

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  49. grace Forrest Avatar

    and it was from being snipped of something…a
    TRUE scrap, and on the floor, no less. and when i picked
    it up and dusted if off i could not believe my eyes….
    GRASS CLUMP.
    xoxo

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  50. Mo Crow Avatar

    One Straw Revolution and Bill Mollison’s Permaculture books were our bibles back in the 70’s they are imprinted in my soul! Y’know although we live in the middle of a city of 4 million we love gardening to help keep the feet on the ground hands in the earth pay the rent and put food on the table.

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  51. Dee Avatar

    and a Full Moon at that. still child-rearing. that’s a big one. married to someone with a job in Cambridge. that’s a big one. tons of friends here. another big one. you can have chickens and bees in Newton, actually, but I don’t have enough sun for a vegetable garden and that’s just too bad.
    Raising two boys narrowed my scope drastically (while opening it in other satisfying ways, of course). I stopped doing MANY things that had been natural and preferable to me – like eating organic or avoiding meat or practicing meditation. Those were choices, yes, but I would say they were more survival-based than could be guessed from looking outside in.
    And everything keeps changing. One away, one a junior. The ability to make the many large and small choices that go into my suburban life seems to be getting freer. One thing occurs to me lately (re: blogs, artistic vision, what matters/doesn’t) – to document the cheesy, over-developed, commercial wasteland that is so near – i.e. the strip of trafficked road with Marshalls, TJMaxx, etc. Or the Dedham Mall. To celebrate, or at least investigate, what there is to see within a two-mile radius, say, and documenting it with less regard for what is beautiful or alternative — might be a task geared to waking up. And, that’s what matters. Not my label, or the size of my yard, or whether I have chickens or a compost heap.

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  52. grace Forrest Avatar

    oh, Dee. no. it’s not chickens or a compost.
    i’m not exactly sure where you are going with the documenting the cheesy wasteland? i read that part a few
    times and am still not sure where you were going?
    what is beautiful is in the eye of the beholder.
    what is alternative is a judgement.
    Waking Up and staying awake can happen in any circumstance.
    and also i think what matters MOST OF ALL is the
    looking.
    the asking of the questions.
    and this i know you DO. THAT is important. and then
    beyond that, there is a “felt/sense” in all of us about
    all the rest. does it allow some peace with the life
    we are living? if not, then what Else could we possibly do. to ask the question. the have the question be our
    North Star.
    again….i love so much the attention you give to your
    life and how you express it. my felt/sense of you is
    very GOOD.
    love,

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  53. Nance Avatar
    Nance

    You could probably do in in late spring or fall there. She didn’t give me any directions… Said to put in the basement where it was cool and add a bit of water when it was dry. I got two crops. Our basement is probably between 45 to 55 . It was fun to do but what I really liked was how delicate they were… Sort of silky. Xo

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  54. grace Forrest Avatar

    Dee…i have tried to send you an email via what’s on
    your blog and i don’t think it worked.
    what is your email?

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