during the night, Tulip, the last of the Crazy dogs died.   this sounds Cold, i am thinking, but it is, in it's way, a complete relief.  First, she was Very Old,  so just for that.  Second,  she took Forever to die.  Has been wandering about relatively mindless now for a long time.  no sense of things.  would stand at the water bowl drinking with urine running out simultaneously.  So, it was time.  But the relief comes from her being the last of a long period of time when my life was ……what…..when my life was not my own.  When my life was in a way dictated by others.  I could have refused.  but i didn't and i accomodated what seemed to be some kind of necessity.   Tulip was the wife of Como Tu.  the maniac husband's chihuahua dog.  they had 4 children.  Marky was killed in a street fight many years ago.  as was Como Tu.  then there remained Lily and Ramone and the mother Tulip.  Lily and Ramone died this summer.   Tulip trotted on until a kind of sudden decline.  i think she was well over 16 years old…don't really know,  she was well into adulthood when she came here from the Animal Shelter.  

so i am telling this here to document it (Journal, remember),  but also it is once again a "Sign" to me that this coming year is going to be different.  Already today, it is different.  i found self speaking aloud to Chinche, my normal dog.  and realized much to my surprise, that my habit of silence was because of the dogs.  If you spoke,  they, as a group, would crowd around.  so i quit speaking much.  interesting.   and not all a loss,  Chinche learned to respond to eye contact and hand gestures.  quite an accomplishment.  

 

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so out, early this morning to bury her,  i found self thinking about

Swales.   Swales being depressions in the earth, in Permaculture terms,  either natural or created depressions following contour  of the land that slows and concentrates run off of natural occuring water…rain, snow melt.  

 

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when i first came here, there was NO contour of land.  it was simply FLAT.  period.  Flat sand.  that's it.  over the years, because of Use,  some contour has occured.  and also,  i have tried to create  some kind of undulation by building up certain areas with earth and plant matter to some small effect.  this is one.  doesn't look like much, does it.  BUT,  it's something.  and is modestly effective in holding water.  it's weeds, bark from firewood, layered with dirt dug from tree wells.

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here is a naturally occuring swale.   this having happened from watering under the Desert Willow and the Salt Cedar.   

So i spent time looking.  spent time noticing where i need to watch, during the next weeks as some snow and rain will fall.  What is it's natural path?  how can i enchance that? 

 

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saw this.  someone's home.  nice.

 

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i like how Wind has arranged things

 

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most of the day tho was spent stitching those energy vibrations.  you can see them a little on the left.  am stitching with ecru.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

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41 responses to “313 nice balance in this number…..313”

  1. judy keathley Avatar

    maybe your restlessness yesterday had something to do with what was to happen today.
    it is good–i think –that you will talk now with chinche around but not hovering.
    that must feel so freeing.
    i am glad for you that things seem more open now.
    that your life feels more truly your own.
    which of course it is.
    happy new year.

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  2. grace Avatar
    grace

    thank you, judy, for understanding what i was trying to
    say. there is a strong sense of Free happening today.
    what needed to be accomplished has been. and with integrity.
    but now it’s done. and who knows what this Next holds?
    today i sang to Chinche. she just looked at me.
    Happy New Year to All of Us.

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  3. Wendy Avatar
    Wendy

    “Chinche, my normal dog” just cracks me up, you have written it before. There is nothing better than a normal dog. RIP Tulip. And I like this record of all the changes transpiring there, as you interact with the land and the weather. Lots to think about, thank you.

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  4. Tracy Leppold Avatar

    Isn’t it a trip when you realize that something that’s been constricting you is gone? It feels wonderful and surprising to realize how much something was messing you up. Sometimes you don’t know what a hold it had until it’s over. So hugs and congrats to you, and I hope the poor dog will have a better life next time around.
    Love the swales! It’s a great word too.

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  5. judy keathley Avatar

    hey wendy–
    i love how grace can be so reverent & irreverent–all in one self —
    the ” maniac husband” has always cracked me up.
    & i tend to think think irreverence is just another word for humor.

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  6. grace Avatar
    grace

    yes. a normal dog. Which to me, means a dog who Cares. a dog
    who senses the well being of the Whole. that chihuahua/terrier
    group…oh, jeez. i had grown up with dogs. always dogs. all
    kinds of dogs. mostly larger dogs. but these little ones were
    Something. totally self centered. totally a Pack…the 5 of them.
    totally of their own convenience. if the way outside was open,
    meaning dog door, year round, and if it were not cold or moist
    outside, then ok….they would go out, many times during the night
    and BARK at nothing…shrill barking. but if it were cold or moist
    then the far end of the wool oriental rug was just ok enough to
    pee etc. on. no problem. ok with them.
    Wha.
    and you could point it out to them….not!…and they would look
    at you, listen, but it would go in one ear and out the other.
    i spent YEARS stuffing the crack at the bottom of the fence with
    chicken wire, rocks, wood, anything and everything to keep them
    from digging out, which meant keep them safe. it was CRAZY.
    so, yes. Rest, Tulip. a long hard lived life. fierce unto only
    yourSelf. ok then. and we ran it out to the very very end. Everyone said put her down. but she wasn’t done yet. on her own
    terms. so, ok. ok and ok. we all now rest in peace.

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  7. grace Avatar
    grace

    isn’t it a beautiFULL word???? swales, swales, swales…
    according to herSelf, Tulip had a totally Fine and Great
    Life. maybe she can become something totally different
    next time

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  8. judy keathley Avatar

    i think she is something totally different right now.
    & it’s good.

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  9. judy keathley Avatar

    i tend to think tulip is something different right now —
    & it’s good.
    your following comment made me laugh real hard.

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  10. grace Avatar
    grace

    the maniac husband….
    for the first 5 years or close, TRIED. unlike these dogs
    of his. he tried to be his best self. but then, his
    other self won and it was a world i could not even fathom
    of drugs…heroine/crack cocaine/methamphetamine and
    alcohol. toward the end he had a gun. he said one day
    that maybe he should shoot me. i just stood there.
    didn’t know what to say. and then after some silence,
    he said…OK, i’ll just shoot your books. he did. there’s
    a hole in the wall from that. maybe one of the ways
    these mice get in?
    but i somehow had “signed up” for it. and what ended up
    being important to me was that i WAS who i had said i was.
    I didn’t change.
    that’s all i have left from those years. and even to Tulip. i was who i said i was. Now…now it’s done.

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  11. judy keathley Avatar

    i did not know these details.
    but i did know it was not fun & games that led you to refer to him as the maniac husband.
    with all the pain –there was a way you pulled some humor out of it —
    i find this enormously admirable.

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  12. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    Tulip, on her own terms and you let her have them and she lived them. Glad that we spent some time with all of you during the Solstice. Now Chinche and you, taking care of each other. You speak to him, you sing to him and this good dog, listens.I know because I spoke to him outside when I was heading toward the goat pens to speak to them and to little Celia and he was most attentive.
    There is something about this year, 2014 and it has to do with time; a deep sense of having time be on our own terms. This year, has a sense of expanding time so now, your terms come more into the light; there is a strong sense of knowing what wants doing both in land and in cloth, I feel it as well but for me I think that sense of knowing, re land, re cloth is still pretty much wrapped up in the magnetic pull and magic that is New Mexico and in my wonder that here is where I now call home, a place and land, new to me but so familiar…

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  13. Tracy Leppold Avatar
    Tracy Leppold

    Tulip sounds like a dog’s dog. I’m sure she was happy, but that’s what I pray when anyone dies. The maniac will be lucky to come back as a rock.

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  14. Michelle in NYC Avatar

    Yes…yesterdays restlessness could easily have been tulips energy, which, being so naturally attuned, you were feeling. I’m so glad she finally let it go, just released herself from it. Her story/your story. of where she comes from/where you come from, what you’ve both been through is always touching to me, and recognizable too. I didn’t have a maniac husband, but I sure have had many a maniac relationship, and I know how that is, and having left it/them behind. That too. No, we don’t so much change into something else, someone else, I think we simply become more like our true selves in time (if we are fortunate).
    “Swale’ has such a sweep to it…not a rut, but a swale, a place where time has created a countour to accommodate something that may be coming. On either side of a swale, mounds of possibilities rise or fall.
    Our marks are everywhere we have ever been, and everywhere has marked us. Where your shadow falls in that photograph, the ground has received an impression, and absorbed a memory. A beautiful memory of a woman cradling a little dog who is ready to rest there.

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  15. Michelle in NYC Avatar

    PS
    Just to be clear, I should add that “cradling” here is meant to be metaphoric, to apply whether or not a woman was actually holding a little dog, or not.
    PPS
    I just love you too Grace. I just do.

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  16. ² Avatar
    ²

    yes the little star shines even in your pocket
    because it’s her natural being
    to glow to reflect
    to remember you
    she hold your light on
    our light
    at all
    yes yes live is beauty FULL
    you are FULL of that beauty
    wisdom is on your live
    wath a great expirience
    wath a rest
    breath breath
    new things are comming
    love is trust

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    ²

    P S
    someone’s home a beautyful shelter
    one of the 5 skins

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  18. patricia Avatar

    oh. this post. oh. and what speaks to me out of all these amazing thoughts–is the idea of embracing what you “signed up for.” and then following through on that. for the two-leggeds, the four- and for the earth. namaste.

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  19. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    Don’t know why I called Chinche a he, could be her name, the others named Lily, Tulip…nonetheless, a good dog.

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  20. Deb G Avatar

    Swales are something that I added here. It’s made an incredible difference. I believe they are what finally allowed my blueberries to thrive.
    Thinking about the act of commitment and ethics…

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  21. grace Avatar
    grace

    did you write about the blueberry swales????and i missed
    it?…which post??
    Ethics. i’m glad your brought this word here. Ethics.

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  22. Deb G Avatar

    I don’t think I have, or it’s been a really long time. I will this weekend.
    Ethics are something often on my mind. We have an “Ethical Code of Conduct,” for childcare that we follow/consult at work frequently. I think it’s a very important thing to consider, ethics…

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  23. grace Avatar
    grace

    there is always humor.
    in that moment, when i had no idea what was next,
    i found it amazing that he shot my books
    when i think of it since, yes. there IS humor in that.
    The doctors had said he would die in a year. it took
    5 instead.

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  24. grace Avatar
    grace

    i’ll watch for the Swale Post.

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  25. Jan Avatar
    Jan

    (((grace))) I just want to hug you. for having the courage to follow through on what you “signed up for”. . .for outlasting, kindly, mindfully, what has been crazy and self-centered. I honor that strong being of you and hold the tender you. . .the vulnerable you.
    as well as all who gather here. . .to outlive the crazy and out-of-balance.
    and, I’m thinking about the scale of things. how you create swales in cloth as well as in the land. a spectrum of shaping. the dimension of it.

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  26. beth Avatar

    Dear Grace, such a strong promise keeper.

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  27. Mo Crow Avatar

    whoee hat off deep bow to you, brave woman with the biggest heart (((Grace)))

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  28. Sherri Avatar
    Sherri

    I’m a new reader…thank you Grace for sharing of yourself. It helps to read words of one so sensitive to life…and know that it’s ok to be vulnerable.
    Thank you,
    Sherri

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  29. judy keathley Avatar

    hey grace–
    by ecru do you mean just the color —
    or is it also a kind of thread?

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  30. grace Forrest Avatar

    i just hope i don’t have to be involved

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  31. grace Forrest Avatar

    i’m looking forward to how it unfolds. and yes…
    expanding, there IS a sense of that…..

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  32. grace Forrest Avatar

    i love you, Michelle. even tho i miss your blog pics
    i like it that you have more words for comments. they
    Mirror beautifully

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  33. grace Forrest Avatar

    isn’t it just the BEST home???? i wonder who.

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  34. grace Forrest Avatar

    yes. signed up. and then we Go.

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  35. grace Forrest Avatar

    i learned things i never would have any other way.
    love your thought of scale…love this a LOT

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  36. grace Forrest Avatar

    yup. that would be me. but i learned from all that to
    now just keep a little distance from promises. to say
    i’ll Try. leave it at that.

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  37. grace Forrest Avatar

    oh…there was no real choice in the moments.

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  38. grace Forrest Avatar

    Hey!, Sherri…please be welcome. we’re just looking at
    Stuff here

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  39. grace Forrest Avatar

    just the color. it’s just regular embroidery thread…
    one strand tho

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  40. roz Avatar
    roz

    gosh grace, this story of the maniac hisband and the dog, this is a story of just going. persistence. resilience. commitment. and just going.
    swales are THE best thing. as is freedom.

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  41. grace Avatar
    grace

    oh…Hey, Roz!
    i always thought we could have been a great Movie.
    and swales…yes. i’m thinking you have swales in
    your Gardens….
    love,

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