I could not have asked for Better Company this morning.  I'd forgotten 9 year old girls.  Maybe they are the most perfect of all the earth's creations.  so on the Cusp of everything.   I have known her since she was born, really,  her father brought her around a lot when she was little.  And then over the last maybe 5 years,  every weekend they come.  But it's always a kind of in the middle of the road exchange with the adults talking,  the child listening.   So i knew her but i didn't KNOW her.  I do now.  She was already here when i made the Old Cowboy see if you are dead call this morning and he reported that he had forgotten to tell me that he had NO peanut butter left and was i coming to town…no…hadn't planned on it,  but i thought, why not.  She hadn't had breakfast yet so we decided to GO OUT FOR BREAKFAST….which i never do.  Never go out to eat.  I get those Green Chili Cheeze Burgers and Breakfast Burritos for OCB to take to his house.  But to go IN and sit?  So we went to the busiest restaurant in town,  the El Camino where probably half of Socorro is any morning.  Really.  And Everybody Knows Everybody.  Family place.    She said…except for your eyes, they probably think you are my grandmother.  And i said yes.  When the waitress asked her what to drink,  she did not hesitate and said  Coffee.  My eyebrows went UP and she looked directly at me and the waitress turned up her mug and said "cream?"  Yes please.  so, OK.  She is a people watcher like me and commented on how many people seemed to be drinking pop with their meal.  Talking about how her father had changed to eating healthy and that they no longer have pop in their house.  No junk food either.  He cooks.  She lives with him now.  Visits her mother only.  Now and then.  She said,  volunteered out of the blue,  that the reason for that is that her mother used to abuse her.  That her father went to court.  But that she loves her mother and wishes she would get well.  All this in a conversational tone.  Back to people watching.  Then we went to get the OCB's peanut butter at Walmart where they have an institutional  sized tub of Jiff Creamy that he likes.  Off to the other grocery where we got his Blue Bunny Chocolate Chip icecream that was on a previous list and hot dogs.  I got both of us a package of Peeps.  She showed me how the cardboard packaging was sticking into the bottom row of her rabbit peeps and then went on to have a conversation with them that they looked like really less than two years old,  but oh,  she could see they were suffering and so she would eat that row first as an act of mercy.  Right then i knew i could get hooked on this kid.  Off to the Old Cowboys.  I introduced them and he immediately launched in to getting me to look at his mail,  his auto pay thing to the city for his utilities,  the bill that finally came from his lawyer,  the payment notice for the disabled veterans and he off handedly said to her that i am his business assistant and she assumed a stance and said "then I will be her assistant" and we went through all the mail and i handed her the stuff to trash and she shredded it well and put it in the trash.  I wrote the check for the lawyer's bill,  he signed it and she put it in the return envelope and afixed the stamp and his return address label.   I showed her where and how to mark the ballot for the Electric Cooperative election and she did the envelope and return address stuff herself.    He asked her if she liked watching movies …yes….so some time spent in his pirated movie stash for disney ones and then some like Braveheart and The Gods Must Be Crazy and she asked if she could use his Sharpie to write her name on them.  She did.  We bagged them up and she went out to the car and came back in with one of her Peeps,  handing it to him saying thank you, Robert.    We left, and getting into the car,  she said  "He is a very sweet person".  

On the way to town and back,  the people were Walking.  along the road,  along the freeway.  Some carrying crosses they had made.  We talked about what we knew about Jesus and how he had to walk and carry his cross to where they nailed him to it.  It was just a sharing of information.  Neither of us knowing a whole lot.   But we waved to the Walkers.  They waved back.  She asked if i had ever walked and i said yes,  twice.  Was i Catholic?,  no,  i just like the idea of it.   She thought she might too someday.  

We got back and hung around with the Goats who had a really interesting response to her.  The Doe Goats were feeling Frisky anyway,  so there was a lot of head butting and a lot of hormonal energy,  them being bucky with eachother and for some reason they wanted to do all that very close to us as we sat on the picnic table in the middle of it all.  She wondered if they were lesbian.  I said it's hard to know with Goats.  They just have FEELINGS and express themselves.  So there was some conversation about that and about when and why i let them breed or not.  She said  "well, as long as they are good mothers"  and i said yes.  They were ALL very good mothers.  We cut lilacs for her grandma and when she got home,  she had not taken the right keys so we had to break in to one of the windows that was covered very tightly with plastic.  I stood on a cooler that we put atop a wooden chair and Raya stepped up on my shoulder and dropped in to the window to come unlock the door.  We congratulated ourselves at being capable and efficient and that was that.  A totally Satisfying  exchange.  All the way around.  Could NOT have possibly been better.

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the Least robust of the two young Narrow Leaf Cottonwoods!   BEAUTY FULL pollen tassels!!!!!  Trees and bushes here….the first year planted either live or die.  the second year their roots search for water source in the earth which indicates if they might sustain themselves.  The THIRD year,  they actually begin to flourish.  This is year Three.  We made it!  They will grow large.  Goats are ecstatic to eat the crispy fallen leaves in fall and winter.  I am VERY happy about this.  VERY.

 

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and LOOK.   It might happen.   An Apricot Year!!!   Apricot Chutney.  eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeEEEEE  maybe.  

 

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this afternoon,  still time for some changes here that feel Right….

for more wheelbarrows of compost to the big raised bed

for Tay time who was beside herself with the excitement of Raya who she just wanted to Absorb into herself,  she LOVED Raya but didn't know how to.  Raya was firm but kind and said to me

she doesn't know the meaning of No.  True.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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30 responses to “a GOOD friday”

  1. Michelle in NYC Avatar

    Raya is a dream child, and you with her, well, that was a dream scene, a REAL DREAm. Golly and wow how I envy you your wonderful time with her….or maybe her wonderful time with you or maybe just delighted to hear about it. Things at your place are kinda swell just now. You can watch the LUNAR ECLIPSE if you are up early (here 5AM) you can find out for you:
    http://www.timeanddate.com/eclipse/lunar/2015-april-4

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  2. julie Avatar

    It seems like it was as much fun to retell as it was to do, you and your assistant. See, you are not asocial, you just dont see the need to settle for such anyone for company.

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  3. saskia Avatar

    9, i’m sitting here with tears in my eyes, kind of home sick for that girl i once was; she is very wise this Raya
    thank you for sharing this Grace, just what i needed today

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  4. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    Raya, in Bulgaria the name means Heaven. Yes as Saskia says, a wise child with a depth of understanding and compassion that melts the heart. Her father and she, good together. You and Raya, good together, your place perfect for a curious and wondering child.
    Raya had me when she asked for coffee with breakfast. How well I remember cafe con leche (coffee with milk.) My five year old self could not understand why I couldn’t have it at my kindergarten break, how we always had milk and cookies and I knew milk only as something you put in cereal.

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  5. deb Avatar

    How remarkable that she thinks so much outside of herself.

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  6. debbie.weaver Avatar

    I had forgotten how wise little girls can be. Just an idea, I always put paper shreddings in my compost, it adds something, I can’t remember what and makes it well and truly impossible for identity theft people to try and put the pieces back together.

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  7. patriciaspangler47@gmail.com Avatar

    i read this account with such interest. listening. to both of you. and imagining her voice. what comes through here is that she is very clear on who she is. and that is such a wonder full thing. and the apricot. oooooooooooooooooooooo yes. how many are there? i ask because i had a peach tree that never did a lot, but each season i would count the peaches, knew them each intimately. knew when each first succumbed to the little beetles that bored into them and caused the fruit to rot. and each year i hoped for a different outcome.

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  8. Liz Avatar

    Writing is living life twice … and then again in the re-reading. A day well-worth reliving!

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  9. Mo Crow Avatar

    that beautiful new green of the apricot!

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  10. Kristin Avatar
    Kristin

    What a delight you shared with me this cloudy and quite cold Montaana morning. Raya is pure, sweet, deep soul…and how well she adapts to new experiences and her wisdom and sharing without missing a beat, well a gift was given to you as you gave the gift of “watching” her for her grandmother. So much of the story was just the meat of shat a good piece of a work of “story” must be…you kept me rapt as I read through twice..and surely I will read again.
    Like Debbie wrote, I put all shredded plan paper – not the shiny stuff, into the compost….also use it as a layer in the soil with straw and topsoil as I make my potato tall wire growing things…it makes a nice balance with the green things added to the compost and produces some truly fine soil.
    I look forward to reading more stories of shared time with Raya..and truly she captured OCB’s heart as well as Tay’s…and yours. What a perfect Spring story – a celebration of life for Passover and Easter and Spring Quinnox…all rolled into one beautiful 9 year old girl.

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  11. Dana Avatar

    Yes, this was a well-told story. I laughed when Raya took mercy on the Peeps.

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  12. beth Avatar

    Thanks for taking us along. Prepubescent nine. Just about the perfect age. I hope you will have more contact with each other.

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  13. Tina Avatar
    Tina

    Sounds like a perfect day all around….For all!!! Such an amazing age……what the generations offer one another when given an opportunity is as you would say….wonder FULL!!

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  14. Stephanie Avatar
    Stephanie

    A beautifully told story of a very fine day. And the pictures, too. I always love your New Mexico sky pictures. I imagine living there. You let me visit for a few moments. I like that very much. Wishing you more grand and full days.

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  15. .cynthia Avatar
    .cynthia

    ..to step outside your usual day and find an unexpected someone there to meet you full on…a GOOD friday indeed gentle day grace

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  16. grace Avatar

    it was. a DayDream. What a Surprise we were, the combination of Us
    I slept through it, the eclipse…i know it blessed everything

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  17. grace Avatar

    i am…i am anti social for the most part…i am. because today i did not have an iota of urge to repeat it right away….right away….time can go by. Sometimes. even with Her, who is PERFECT. I need
    time to go by.

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  18. grace Avatar

    i don’t remember myself at ALL at nine. It’s like that time is
    missing from me. I remember 7. Just 7. Then we go to maybe 11.
    There is a gap.

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  19. grace Avatar

    I will tell her that, about Bulgaria and i know she will ask where Bulgaria is and we can look it up.
    i loved. Loved how she asked for coffee. Not knowing whether or not it would Work, but asking, nonetheless.

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  20. grace Avatar

    yes. very much Outside Herself…she has a Far Horizon

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  21. grace Avatar

    yes…shredded paper but we were at the Old Cowboy’s. He doesn’t
    do compost. But the shredding, that was her own idea from what she’s learned

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  22. grace Avatar

    her voice.
    she is very matter of fact. No Ego there, no need for it…she is simply Right There. I want to understand More about how she is. It is very important.
    There are MANY MANY MANY apricots now, all sizes because of how the blooms came on, staggered…which is Unusual…it will be really something to learn if they can come to fruition

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  23. grace Avatar

    it was. the writing of it was even more pleasure, and today, there is even MORE Pleasure in the remembering

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  24. grace Avatar

    isn’t it?????!!!!!! so totally what it IS?!

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  25. grace Avatar

    “without missing a beat”…..YES….the momentum, the spontaneous
    energy that moved through it all…YES…without missing a beat!
    and yes too, with potato planting…i am going to do that tomorrow.
    Montana will warm completely very soon. Very Very Soon…..

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  26. grace Avatar

    she had me there. Mercy on the Peeps. She was in her own world then, talking to them. I was driving and silent. It was a Whole Scene…
    her and the Peeps…..
    i thought, OK, i KNOW this child. Yup. I really KNOW her.

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  27. grace Avatar

    There’s no doubt. It’s SET now. The hard part for me will be setting boundries.

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  28. grace Avatar

    i feel so gifted by her. generations often…..there is a Gap
    but not so here and i think it is truly a gift.

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  29. grace Avatar

    Stephanie….i am so glad to give you Skies. There are so HERE
    and i am so glad. really glad that they have meaning for you

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  30. grace Avatar

    Full on
    such good good words. Full on. Because that was exactly how it was, Full On. We were so totally There and Ready and we just Went with it.
    so much. so much, unexpected. and we Went.

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