because things can move Fast.

 

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and really,  it's better that things move fast.  Slow would not make anything Easier.

Julie asked.    What will happen to This Place,  here in Polvadera?

Have said this in comments, i guess,  but to put it here.

Travis will live here.  If that had not occured,  i don't know if i could go.  If i could Leave.

I met Travis at the Old Folks Home,  over there on Hwy 60,  the road up the mountain to Magdalena.  It's a sprawling place.  Never had been inside before.  Until Alz. Betty had to go there one day on a Saturday.  

Alz B being Bill's mother who i'd reluctantly taken up housekeeping for at his REQUEST.  Every other week for some years and then just slowly increasing to include not just keeping house,  but keeping Company as her mind began to Wander Away.  Then More.  and then,  That Saturday.  After that, he paid me to go there,  to the Old Folks Home to just be with her a few times a week,  keep track of things there,  go to the staff/family meetings that determined her Care.   For altogether 3 years give or take,  i would primarily go at lunch time,  except for Music Thursday.   There were tables of 3 in the community dining room and Travis,  a CNA,  certified nursing assistant,  was almost always at our table with Alma and Jenny.  He fed them.  I fed Alz B.  We talked,  i found out over time a lot about who he is,  from the conversations,  but also from being witness to the exchanges he had with two scrappy women who had Lost their Minds.     His kindness and capability.  His humor.  His direct honesty.  The night Alz. B died, i got the call to come.  I got there first,  before her son and sat with her and then her body.  Travis came and sat too. Then we all sat for hours.  

i didn't see him then,  for some months until things started picking up momentum with the Old Cowboy i was caring for….things i didn't want to do,  like bath time. Toe nail trimming.   I called him and it went from there to his being the primary caregiver in a 24/7 kind of way,  knowing other CNA's that would share shifts.  Then the months of Hospice in Old Cowboy's home.  To the end.     During that time,  i knew him better and better.  He also Knew me.  Well.   That was going on 2 years ago and since then i have hired him and his friend Everett to help me with things here that i couldn't do or couldn't do alone.  They would come,  do the work and then we'd sit out under the Old Apricot Tree and just talk.  We watched Toads.  He saw the juvenile skink.  Both he and Everett love it here.  Their place is in town.  a tiny courtyard yard.  Travis works on vehicles.  It's his Love.

I think he's 32 years old.  Everett is younger and over time tells me of how social interactions are very difficult for him,  how hard he works at changing that but it's slow going.  He is happy as a clam here.  Travis is like his older brother.  Teaches him how to work on his car.  Interprets the world for him.

So,  when it seemed that "sooner or later",  i'd need to make my mind up about Going,  i just put the thought out there….would Travis want to live here?  Would he promise to Give Water?  Would he care for the Toads,  Lizards,  the Bull Snake?  

YES!  and for the first time,  i could entertain the thought of Leaving.  He will run a drip system and dig a sandpoint well which will have a solar pump. He is extremely smart and able.  Will change all the things about this Home that are falling apart.   I don't know if Everett will actually live here,  but he will GROW things here…he loves the raised beds and imagines all manner of things growing in all the places that the Goats have enriched the soil.  

so, Julie,  what will happen here will Evolve.   The Albatros will return to being an automotive Thing.  But i have complete FAITH that things will continue and things will GROW.  

so…he can have it.  The neighborhood has continued to get a little more and more Ify but it  won't bother them.   This is important.  Not a lot of people could be comfortable here.  They will be,  well,  happy as clams.

and just to clarify a little further.   When the person i was married to died,  the whole area where the Front Oasis and the 3 Goat yards are had various vehicles of Potential,  a boat.  The guy who buys such things came at my request.  He walked around and walked around.  I said…so……and i always remember his wise words.  

"Anyone who would want these,  wouldn't have enough money.  Anyone who had enough money, wouldn't want them."

that applies to this Place.  So, I'll Give it. 

…………………………………Addendums……………………………………………………….

to Clarify more….when i say that it's more and more Ify,  the neighborhood,  i do not mean to imply "dangerous".  I never feel any danger here.  I never lock my door,  and actually,  the door that goes out from the ROOM into the way back,  has no lock anyway.  When i leave,  am away for the day,  the door is unlocked…in warm weather,  only the screen door.   By ify i mean that places are not taken care of.  Even if poor,  there are ways to take care.  That's not happening so much.  And the place next door that i'd though of buying as a "buffer" is increasingly imploding.  It's an eyesore,  really.  

 

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Polvadera Panini Press

 

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Have begun the Grasses.  Hard to see,  but if you double click…………….

 

 

 

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42 responses to “for the sake of Clarity …………and addendums”

  1. Jan Avatar
    Jan

    I could feel your “giving” it from here. . .long before you said it. to let things go at their own pace. . .

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  2. jude Avatar

    i was wondering, remebring your comment. yes. good.

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  3. Wendy@ Late StartStudio Avatar

    It all seems so right. Yes indeed.

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  4. cathy Avatar

    Hoping a good fit for Travis.

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  5. Joyce Avatar

    Just catching up once in awhile to see how you are and how your preparations for the move are coming along. I, too, am in the sorting process for the “Going” that will happen sometime. It may happen sooner than I thought. I was recently in Albuquerque for a few days to help my parents and I thought of you often. So glad you have found Travis for your place. NM is difficult to explain to people who are not familiar with it and really the WEST in general. So different from where I am now — will be glad to go. So happy for you to be with your family.

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  6. Cheryl Avatar
    Cheryl

    I love this story, Grace, and especially that it is truly organic. You are so lovely. Your forthcoming journey will be another great story.

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  7. Liz A Avatar

    There is such good-ness here … a story worth telling again and again

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  8. grace Avatar

    giving, yes, but also such a Great Exchange. Giving for
    Peace of Mind, for Peace of Heart.

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  9. grace Avatar

    it is. it’s Very Good. things become Possible in many ways.

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  10. grace Avatar

    i am deep in Gratitude for how it’s happening

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  11. grace Avatar

    it will be. He is aware of so much, a very smart and
    sensitive Soul. He’s young and having this Place will allow
    him to become who he truly is.

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  12. grace Avatar

    so…then, you will come This Way?

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  13. grace Avatar

    All our lives are these Epic things of becoming….yours too….

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  14. grace Avatar

    yes…to re tell. retelling lets different aspects shine

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  15. Tina Avatar
    Tina

    So much goodness all the way around!

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  16. julihe Avatar

    And arent I glad I asked!!!!
    I like this whole arrangement, Grace, but dont leave the Pyrex behind. Never heard anyone preface Pyrex with “beloved” so you shouldn’t break up with it.
    I walked around my house today wishing I had your adventure ahead of me. Maybe I do, just not now. Just to rub it in, i went to volunteer.gov and found the National park Sevice looking for people to be tour leaders/hosts at the cliff dwellings in Gila National Park, RV hook up free. SIGH. I i think I should buy myself a Hot Wheels Airstream until its time to Go.

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  17. Liz A Avatar

    The panini press … love it!

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  18. Michelle in NYC Avatar

    I remember the story and yet seeing it all of a piece here again it’s quite astounding how it all grew organic like and developed to be just right for this moment unfolding. It’s good.

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  19. ² Avatar
    ²

    my heart smile , i feel it on my lips , on my eyes
    i give it to you

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  20. LInda Avatar

    i feel at rest too.. was wondering about your leaving and what would remain. Now it all fits.

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  21. Mo Crow Avatar

    those grasses!

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  22. cynthia Avatar
    cynthia

    it is as if i can hear a hum..feel a current ..of happiness encircling this world of ours ..it feel so right..my heart joins in..sings
    gentle day grace

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  23. dee Avatar

    your posts are generally FULL and compelling but this post really stands alone as a story. a story really well told! I love your patterns of language (esp the sentence fragments) and the details you include (bull snake, toe nail clipping to name just two)… and of course, all the rest — about love and change and land and sky…

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  24. Joy Avatar
    Joy

    It sounds like it was all meant to be, perfect. Love the Panini press. We creative folks improvise, don’t we?

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  25. ali Avatar
    ali

    So happy to read this Herstory of your time in this place, and I am so glad you have someone so sensitive and right to Be there – very happy for the Toads, Lizards and Bull Snake too, and for the great generosity of Spirit which allows you to give so generously and rightly. It is all beautiful.

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  26. grace Avatar

    it is. it’s a Soft but Clear Circle

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  27. grace Avatar

    i don’t know why i love the Pyrex stuff, but i really do. Alot.
    and Alyssia says she has lots of cupboard space, so…okey dokey.
    i know a couple who did that….the Natl Park Service thing.
    Actually, i lived in their home when i first came down to
    Albuquerque from Cerrillos. They rented rooms in a large home in
    South Valley. Kinda commune~ie. He was a real estate agent, she worked at La Mantanita Food Coop. really interesting and so great people. But their kids (young adult) were driving them Crazy so they sold the house and took off in an Airstream to do just that…in N Mex and also up and down the West Coast. Haven’t been in touch in many years, but last i knew they
    did not regret it.
    Also, there’s the jobs with the Forest Service…the watch
    towers. You are still young. Don’t wait too long….

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  28. grace Avatar

    have been having this panini press urge for a while now….but
    have not moved on it….but i got a thing for Ruben Sandwich
    and got the stuff, made the Zingerman’s dressing and brought
    the door stop rock in…washed it in sink and
    Ta Da.
    I’d asked my son, the chef, if there is something Really, about
    what happens with a PP and he said yes….it’s the steady even
    heat but this was just OK enough.

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  29. grace Avatar

    they are coming by on Saturday to check out the horse trailer…
    what needs to be done to get it ready…and we’ll talk more.
    i am so grateful. Beyond grateful. As i said….i don’t know
    if i could do it without it being this way.
    it’s like some kind of Karmic Event.

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  30. grace Avatar

    oh…Maria….your heart, lips, eyes….giving…you to me…
    and i send back

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  31. grace Avatar

    Everything will be SAFE.

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  32. grace Avatar

    beloved grasses, beloved grasses….
    all over here, i guess because of the mild and wet winter…tiny
    ones are sprouting up

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  33. grace Avatar

    yes, the hum. we are being encircled. yes.

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  34. grace Avatar

    i take this as a compliment from a Writer….but i just
    type it as it comes out of my head…..it’s just how it was,
    it’s just that part of the Story…Story tells its Self

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  35. grace Avatar

    i will be doing much more improvising in the future…and
    that’s a really happy thought…improvising…i like it

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  36. grace Avatar

    i really can’t believe my Luck….them….they are so perfect…
    Generosity….i wish it were the warp on the loom of Everything
    Why Not? it Works.
    Thank you, ali, for your thoughts…they Matter

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  37. Valerianna Avatar

    OMG… I just had a good laugh at your panini press, was thinking you were attempting to cook a rock, how funny!

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  38. grace Avatar

    wasn’t the best choice of rock….kept sliding…..i need
    to perfect the technique
    glad you came by…Love….

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  39. Dakotah Avatar

    Lovely storytelling…and hearing how things will continue there…

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  40. saskia Avatar

    not been online much these past couple of weeks, it’s like that sometimes;
    I am so happy for you Travis gets to live here, such a relief for you, for all of us I guess who have followed your journal of this spot on earth

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  41. grace Avatar

    it had to be that, continuing, i feel incredibly lucky
    that it’s going to work this way….i don’t know how i
    could have left, otherwise

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  42. grace Avatar

    yes. relief. All will be just Ok.
    i have missed you at the BirdHut

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