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watching the flowers wither today.   They  are here,  in my face,  on the table.   Letting go of their original selves.  And i see the Beauty of this….around the glass,   fallen petals….still in the glass,  petals that are becoming dry and thin  and i think about my friend Dora.   Back in the day,  when we took the drawing classes from Kay,  Kay Gould Caskey,   in Ann Arbor,  Michigan,  once the classes were in Dora's apartment.  There would always be bouquets.  In all their forms…new,  intermediate and then fading  fading fading into paper thin.  Dora and i loved the paper thin.  These we would spend hours drawing…pencil.

i've written about Dora before.  I think way back when there was the blogspot blog,  which is gone now.  Dora was a small woman.   Her hair was White with always some kind of elegant comb to hold it up and in place.  She often wore her Tai Chi things…that she brought back from trips to Japan.  So…two memories of Dora are emblematic.   One,  our love of drawing flowers as they dried and faded into such delicate and paper thin,  less than paper thin….. and then one night when i was waiting with her,  i forget for what,  but we were waiting in a large room.  It was at a church i think?,  but large.  Empty room.  With a great wall of windows.  Dark outside.  Lit softly.  And to pass the time of waiting,  Dora did her Forms.  Her Tai Chi forms.  Small woman,  white hair,  pined with a silver comb,  indigo design jacket and pants,  her forms.  Her forearm had numbers tatooed…from the camp in Germany.   Watching her,  forgetting to breathe,  forgetting to swallow so that a slender thread of saliva hung down my chin and on to my chest.  

 

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31 responses to “my friend”

  1. joanne Avatar
    joanne

    Grace you don’t even need a pencil or paper any more to draw beautiful pictures.
    I will remember this picture from today– but I may forget her name due to the tick bite.
    My blog is still blogspot.I think.

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  2. Kim Avatar
    Kim

    It seems that once you put it out there it’s never really gone. I googled windthread blogspot and found my way to this.
    https://windthread.blogspot.com/2010/09/weavers.html
    And yes…love the paper thin petals. I think the German Iris is a beautiful flower but the best part is that thin tissue paper at the base of the flower. So interesting to draw and paint.

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  3. Mo Crow Avatar

    (((Grace))) such well wrought words!

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  4. jaime Avatar
    jaime

    Wow, what a beautiful memory. It amazes me what people have lived through yet can still want to learn something new. You are a very good writer.

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  5. jude Avatar

    my dad used to say… life is beautiful.

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  6. Michele Avatar
    Michele

    Reading this was a gift. Thank you.

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  7. jaime Avatar
    jaime

    Kim, Thank you for googling and finding this original post. The image of the egg case is so beautiful and timely. I’ve been watching the garden spider outside my kitchen window and wishing I could be more like her. The way she repairs the web each morning and checks the tension of the silks. She rides the wind. And then waits. Without moving a single muscle. Do spiders have muscles? Now I can add the words of the egg case, a soft safe place for the future to be protected. Thank you Kim, Thank you Grace, Thank you Dora.

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  8. Michelle Slater Avatar

    Here I am on another Manhattan Saturday being with you and Dora (went to the past link too)…watching your flowers fall and loving you.

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  9. Els Avatar

    I can see it all (flowers and Dora)

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  10. dee Avatar

    It reads like a dream.

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  11. Michelle Slater Avatar

    Grace…I phoned you but the number was disconnected a recording said. Also sent an email…Expect a SMALL Surprise package with cloth and a photograph or two–Supposed to arrive sometime after Tuesday 10/9
    So maybe a trip to the post Wed, Thurs, Fri, or Saturday because I remember they don’t hold on to packages.

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  12. Tina Avatar
    Tina

    Your words are like sweet candy feeding my imagination.

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  13. Deb Lacativa Avatar

    really, I held my breath reading this.

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  14. grace Forrest Avatar

    it’s Dora that gives the memory, the picture.

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  15. grace Forrest Avatar

    Kim…oh, jeez, look what you have found…..oh, eeeee
    do you draw and paint?

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  16. grace Forrest Avatar

    when they told her, Dora, that they suggested a
    triple bypass, she took up sky diving

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  17. grace Forrest Avatar

    it is. and it is also everything else.

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  18. grace Forrest Avatar

    that you read it is a gift to me…Thank YOU

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  19. grace Forrest Avatar

    it is exactly as you tell here, they are so
    Brilliant
    and there…for Us….to learn

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  20. grace Forrest Avatar

    i love so much that Manhattan of yours

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  21. grace Forrest Avatar

    Dora. love to Dora

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  22. grace Forrest Avatar

    row row row our boats

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  23. grace Forrest Avatar

    got the email…am slow….maybe you called the N Mex
    number?
    this is 575 418 7363
    will not ever be disconnected…it’s a Necessity, as
    i live along on this Hill, alone…no humans

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  24. grace Forrest Avatar
  25. grace Forrest Avatar

    just as i did, watching her

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  26. grace Forrest Avatar

    the phone and Windthread are the same…no phone, no computer. Verizon.

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  27. Kim Avatar
    Kim

    Yes. Watercolour… mostly flowers. I have tried the Inktense pencils too. Love what can be done with them on cloth.

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  28. Linda Avatar
    Linda

    Beautiful writing … beautiful memory to have. What a gift these friendships are.

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  29. grace Forrest Avatar
  30. grace Forrest Avatar

    remembering her holds me today. in a very Real way.

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