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i took just random pics,  to capture  the sunlit grasses out by  the Oaks     

just right there between the resting chair and the horse trailer,   where i look everyday          And when i looked at them later in the pic gallery,    i saw these     straight  trees,   these slim straight trunked trees…????……i'd not seen them before????

i guess because i am always looking         down further,  past the fence line,  into the Doe Forest.      But seeing them in the pic felt Good….their plain straight selves right up here near the fence

 so much.  about looking,  seeing.   

and then,  in a different way.     the thing of Community comes up in so many different ways.    I think.      my lack of community in day to day life here since i came.   and I thought about   the  places i go.  Which would be the Dollar Store for one and i watched this play out in my mind……     The last time.  I often tell other people to go ahead of me in the check out line if they have only a little and i have a cart.  Toilet paper,  papertowel etc.    They say….are you sure?  and i say yes.   the last time,  a kind of sketchy guy,  skinny,  maybe in his 4o's   had two things that turned out to be a pint of ice cream and a box of Queen Anne's chocolate covered cherries.    He set them on the counter,  the cashier was doing something,   we had to wait.  People don't talk.   I do.  I said something about   "Good Choice ,  the Queen Ann's"   he didn't respond…am not sure he thought of them that way,  maybe just chocolate covered cherries?    but he was quiet.  Undaunted i went on,  how maybe because it's nearing Valentines  Day they are in the front middle isle,      he said     they're for my brother.    and i went on with things about how so really great they are          and that was that.    the cashier returned.   As i left the store   he was pulling away in his truck    looked over at me and    SMILED a tentative slight smile,  tilted his head.   and in that moment,  he was my community.  i was his.   a skinny sketchy guy and an old lady   in a place where people don't ordinarily speak,  stand silently in their own space      

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14 responses to “continuing as yesterday, about Seeing”

  1. Nancy Avatar

    Grace~ This makes me think about how through my lifespan I’ve moved back and forth between talking and not. Young mom in NV, I had to force my uneasy, introvert self to talk to others in the grocery store. Having my baby son with me made that easier. Everyone loves a baby. Mom years, it had become much easier, more “my way” to strike up conversations, trying to build community, model for my children and so on. Recent years, going quiet has been an easier escape of all that is happening in the world, keeping my feelings to myself in a neighborhood that is big and fast and doesn’t seem to care. I wonder what the next time period will bring? xo

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  2. Deb G Avatar

    I love that story Grace. You might have been the brightest part of his day, we never know. Community…it doesn’t always take much.

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  3. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    I hope you always keep on talking; I do at times as well but not always: This is a comment I wrote recently in response to a post by Deb G on community:
    Building community is a cornerstone of democracy but these days, it seems to occur when disasters come and political lines are set aside, temporarily, but even then, life reverts to its status quo, when all is said and done. Case in point:
    I live in an apartment complex, 4 apartments, 7 tenants. While we all greet each other by name when we see each other, that’s as far as it goes. It took city workers breaking a water line, this summer, for us to gather collectively, exchange phone numbers, share bottled water and food. While I hoped that this incident would help sustain our little community, we have reverted to no communication but I get it: winter is here, it is brutally cold, my husband and I are the only people retired, all of the others work, and life goes on. The spark of hope comes in that, if there is another situation, we will rally around each other and maybe, that is all you can hope for in this day and age. Frankly, we do face such a situation, in this country,starting tomorrow but since I only know the political persuasion of one of my neighbors, hope for further building community will remain a bit precarious…but I will keep on trying

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  4. Liz A Avatar

    I am reaching out to the community of kindred spirits today … that we might keep our focus on the positive things that we can accomplish, each in our own spheres … but I will also admit that becoming a part of a small local parish has been a good thing for me as I was becoming extremely insular

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  5. Tina Avatar
    Tina

    This is how we will carry on … being kind to one another keeping politics out of the conversation when we can. Thank you Grace for this reminder of how each of us with little effort can make a difference. Love you!!

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  6. Deb VZ Avatar
    Deb VZ

    Yes to all of this. I’m not always feeling friendly when waiting in lines but try to respond in friendly manner if someone else initiates. But as Tina said, it takes only a little effort to make a difference…I need remind myself of that daily.

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  7. grace Forrest Avatar

    neighbord, big fast doesn’t seem to care….am \
    looking at that….very much

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  8. grace Forrest Avatar

    he also was the brightest part if MY day…still is

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  9. grace Forrest Avatar

    just sensing any way at all to connect

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  10. grace Forrest Avatar

    had to look up…parish…ahhh, church?

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  11. grace Forrest Avatar

    i don’t think “politics” needs to be kept out, for me,
    just doesn’t need to dominate
    or, politics as we have understood it to mean in the past. It’s different now…it means things like decency, kindness…things that need to be “kept in”

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  12. grace Forrest Avatar

    this is so interesting to me

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  13. Liz A Avatar

    yes, a little church called St Liz where about 60 people worship on Sundays … making peace pins for them has been a quiet joy

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  14. Carol Avatar
    Carol

    Standing in line at the grocery store has provided me with many a “sacred moment”. Angels need groceries too. Love to you Grace.

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