During the last year give or take,  when moments would become Ify between Betty and I,  we would let the confusion go and sit out back on her patio and i'd read Mary Oliver to us.   This is the one i have chosen for her Memorial.  

Roses, Late Summer

What happens                                                                                                                                                                                   to the leaves after                                                                                                                                                                 they turn red and golden and fall                                                                                                                                       away?  What happens                                                                                                                                                              to the singing birds                                                                                                                                                                  when they can't sing                                                                                                                                                                  any longer?  What happens                                                                                                                                                   to their quick wings?

Do you think there is any                                                                                                                                                       personal heaven                                                                                                                                                                         for any of us?                                                                                                                                                                               Do you think anyone,

the other side of that darkness,                                                                                                                                              will call to us, meaning us?                                                                                                                                                    Beyond the trees                                                                                                                                                                        the foxes keep teaching their children                 

to live in the valley.                                                                                                                                                                   so they never seem to vanish, they are always there                                                                                                  in the blossom of light                                                                                                                                                             that stands up every morning

in the dark sky.                                                                                                                                                                              And over one more set of hills,                                                                                                                                           along the sea,                                                                                                                                                                               the last roses have opened their factories of sweetness                                                                                            and are giving it back to the world.                                                                                                                                    If I had another life                                                                                                                                                                     I would want to spend it all on some                                                                                                                                unstinting happiness.

I would be a fox, or a tree                                                                                                                                                       full of waving branches.                                                                                                                                                          I wouldn't mind being a rose                                                                                                                                                in a field full of roses.

Fear has not yet occurred to them, not ambition.                                                                                                        Reason they have not yet thought of.                                                                                                                               Neither do they ask how long they must be roses, and then what.                                                                        Or any other foolish question.

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15 responses to “chosen. the Mary O for Alz B’s Memorial”

  1. Marti Avatar
  2. Mo Crow Avatar

    I remember you saying how much Betty loved her roses…

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    it speak for You and Betty

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  4. grace Avatar

    yes. She was not a religious person. Or even a spiritual
    person. I think she would say this about herself.
    In our earlier days she would sometimes …. uhhh…challenge me
    saying “being an educated person, how can you ascribe to the concept of reincarnation?”
    she viewed death as death. but also, didn’t like to think of
    it much. i was always pushing against her edges, trying to
    soften her to possibilities.

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  5. Dana Avatar

    Beautiful choice.

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  6. grace Avatar

    it’s something of both of us
    Betty was born in Salt Lake City but grew up in around Seattle
    we would think how her home in the North West was over those
    One More Set of Hills along the sea
    and those last words about foolishness…very much her.

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  7. Mary Lou Avatar
    Mary Lou

    _. i was always pushing against her edges, trying to
    soften her to possibilities._
    Grace! that is so beautiful. I appreciate you saying it again for ME!

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  8. grace Avatar

    Hello, Mary Lou ~
    we say words always for both of Us…All of Us, Yes? i’m glad they
    have meaning for you…
    she never bought it, Betty. even when i would say ” being an educated
    person i am surprised that you Can’t”. She also would never acknowledge
    her fading self. and met any effort to try to make it easier on all of
    us, including her, with indignation and anger. That’s why the Mary O’s
    were such solace to both of us. We could just let Mary say things and
    then sit in wonder.
    Thank you for coming and come back anytime you feel like it…love

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  9. Michelle in NYC Avatar

    YES absolutely perfect Grace. ” I wouldn’t mind being a rose in a field full of roses.” (me too)

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  10. cynthia Avatar
    cynthia

    oh another yes..

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  11. beth Avatar

    Oh yes. Thank you.

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