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They all say all the time….she's just like you.       I wonder what that means to her?

My X,   this son's father,   Jenny's Father,    rented a 5 bedroom B and B between Oroville and Chico.   He wanted to come for Thanksgiving.   He has.    As it turns out,   everyone has been there.    Today they all created a meal.    Tomorrow,  Son will bring me leftovers which will be great.   He's a Chef at a high end establishment in Denver.   he can cook.   I have sous cheffed for him in the past and it is an Experience.

i don't participate.  There's a lot of water under that bridge.   For a very long time.    But this year,   things have changed….smoothed out.   Gentled.   it''s just how things are,   so many things,     are Just How They Are and there seems to be a softness to it all.    Covid has worn away so much,   left so little.   and what's left is soft and  well…just how it all is.   The kids have experienced COUSINS…..real children,  still novel,   for Emrie and Brinley,  a world they  have only imagined.   There is a very large room there,  with many big couches and 2 bunkbeds,  a pool table….Giana told me.  And places to hide,  she said.   Hide and Seek being popular,  still.  Still.  After tomorrow,  they will all be gone.   Over.    Memories.   Emrie will tell me the stories.

i like the pic above a lot.

 

 

 

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  1. maria Avatar
    maria

    This feel SO good , corona did why she came for , to lets us stop with who we lived ( for a lot of us )you know what i mean , everyone know it deep in there heart and soul .
    there is lot of water under that bridge , that is oke ” But there is a BRIDGE ” that is where the bridge is for , other wise we have to swim over our drown
    like you always said ” love is the answer ” what IS that ” love ” ?

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  2. grace Forrest Avatar

    i just read this and LAUGHED!!!!! otherwise we have to swim or drown….
    What is the bridge FOR?…., oh….i smile and laugh and yes.
    it’s what the bridge is for.
    Alyssia is sending me pics of the turkey. I asked and they will bring me the carcass and the pan it was roasted in.
    I’ll make soup and more stuffing from the drippings in the pan. I might repeat the whole thing for New Years…????

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  3. Faith Avatar

    Sounds like a very LOVEly Thanksgiving.

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  4. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    The bones, the carcass, the solid makings of soup, to me, the best part of the big meal;not unlike the dear photo above, the bones of the family, grandmother, son and granddaughter and Tay to watch over all…

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  5. Liz A Avatar

    “she’s just like you” … what could be better?

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  6. jude Avatar

    i like this pic too.
    something similar here, boy with folks from the family i left behind with my divorce so long ago. it’s ok. there was a quiet day here. a loud italian style thing there i suppose.
    she looks like her mother…

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  7. CatherinE Avatar

    I felt a new softness this year and found myself wishing the best for everyone, even those spending Thanksgiving alone. That used to seem a really sad scenario to me, but now I see it as “ok, just how it is.”

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  8. Hazel Avatar

    Glad to see these photos of you and family just being together. Also, happy to know hide & seek is still a thing. We played it in great aunt’s basement every Thanksgiving.

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  9. Nancy Avatar

    I always, always love to read your words, thoughts comments Maria! Yes, a bridge or we would have to swim or drown 😁

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  10. Nancy Avatar

    After digesting the people in the pic, I thought so is This Grace’s place? A view I don’t recall seeing…a view of the trailer itself, when I’m used to being there looking out from the trailer. Today I found this interesting.
    I’m glad you had this time together, however it looked. The softening must feel good. Like Jude, and you…there is an EX (now dead) and my children (not J.’s) and why is everything complicated. wishing I could soften others, but it is okay. It all just is. xo

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  11. Deb G Avatar

    She will tell the stories and build the memory with the story. Glad you had time with your family…it seems like everyone found a way and that is good.

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  12. grace Forrest Avatar

    i love the earnestness between he and i and how
    she balanced between

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  13. grace Forrest Avatar

    i’m not exactly sure what they mean either

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  14. grace Forrest Avatar

    alone is good. i had many alone and they were
    some of the best.

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  15. grace Forrest Avatar

    it is. alive and well, the thrill of the hide, the thrill of
    seek

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  16. Tina Avatar
    Tina

    Life is short .. the older we get the more we know this to be true. I believe it’s that realization that cushions past hurts. I love the photos you’ve been posting and I look ve that your family came together. I’ll be making that turkey soup tomorrow .. I can’t wait yummy 🤤!!

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  17. grace Forrest Avatar

    it took him, son, this amount of time to let it go, that
    i am still here, in this little metal camp. I know you
    remember the Original Plan, of a small wooden House with
    a porch and windowsills. the foundation for which sits above the B Garden.
    He did ask once, when i took them to the Garden…
    so, what about the house?
    and i said…i don’t need it and i don’t think it can happen anyway and he nodded and we admired the placement of rocks around the Egyptian Walking Onions.
    it seems that this is the year of living in the world as it is. For all of us. it’s good.

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  18. grace Forrest Avatar

    everyone did. Jeff was able to pull himself free of his grief and be present, the kids blossomed all over the place. The adult children were adults and kind and of good humor,
    they brought me leftovers today and i can say with a great sense of satisfaction that i am a better Turkey Dinner maker than any of them all together.

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  19. grace Forrest Avatar

    it’s been just in the near past that i have become so
    attached to the Soup. Now it’s the most anticipated part.
    i want to make part of it with thin sliced
    “noodles” of corn tortillas. What a trip.

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  20. maria Avatar
    maria

    alone al-one

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  21. maria Avatar
    maria

    that is the real happyness ” living in the world as it IS .

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  22. Nancy Avatar

    I’m so glad for you to be in this good place with family. I talked briefly to big grandson and ‘face-timed’ with baby grandson. He blew me a kiss. It was enough. xo

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  23. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    Oh I chuckled with your last statement cause I feel the same way;for years I tried to measure up to my Mom’s incredible feasts until one day I realized that I had…
    Spoke to our girls and grands on Thursday and they all had a good communal meal. Was held at Erika’s home, pot luck and she had everyone make something, including the 12 yr old twin grands: She made the main course, a filo pastry dish filled with herbs and mushrooms, son in law made appetizer, some kind of fruit with brie on toasted bread, grandson made cranberry sauce, granddaughter made the dessert. luscious cheesecake bars, friend made squash soup, other daughter Shelley and her man made huge salad, brought wine and cheese…a delicious meal with no turkey since most of them are vegetarian. Still they did have squash soup!

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  24. Nancy Avatar

    Sounds wonderful Marti!

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