March 1 there was an email telling of Orphan Wisdom being in California…Malibu, with Die Wise and Reckoning, on March 12. yesterday. Stephen Jenkinson who i have followed at a distance for many years since reading Die Wise. He said:
"Dying is the fulfillment, not the end, of life. From a young age we see around us that grief is mostly an affliction, a misery that intrudes into the life we deserve, a rupture of the natural order of things, a trauma that we need coping and management and five stages and twelve steps to get over.
What if grief is a skill, in the same way that love is a skill, something that must be learned and cultivated and taught? What if grief is the natural order of things, a way of loving life anyway? Dying can be and must be the fullest expression and incarnation of what you've learned by living.
How you die is the proving ground for the cradle and the grave, for every conviction you may have about justice and mercy, about the meaning of life, about what love should look like and what it should do."
what love should look like and what it should do. use the word can. What love can look like and what it can do.
I called Alyssia at 7 something Sunday morning. i said…maybe don't bring Emrie. That urge to ….shield. When they got here, just moments later, Emrie said Mom asked me. do i want to come? or stay home. I wanted to come. There was a light rain but she stayed at the fence while Alyssia pulled Sunny Ray to standing by his horn scurs and into his "house", the calf hutch, settled him there. before they left, we stood. We said some things about how Lucky we were to have loved him, to have been loved back by him. She saw a tiny rainbow from raindrops in the paint of the car. For Sunny Ray.
He quietly breathed his way Out and Into the Next. it was a gentle death.
What all this is turnig out to be, all this dying, is
about love.
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