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i want to pause.   to let things take time.  to not  "move along".   

i am behind in response to comments again.   and part of the reason for that is that there are many recently that seem to want slow consideration.  Because there are things to learn by taking time.   in responding to them and also letting them open out.  

 maybe i can just keep the same Pic a few days in a row and assign a day #….1,  2,,,3,,,?  and just add to the original words???? Everything seems in question,   feels in question.   so to shift gears,  maybe just stop.   sit.   stay    instead of keeping up a pace.  To ask questions,  then wait long enough for something to form…….?………  .   So maybe because this is more and more a journal of everything,   maybe i'll just try it.   

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  1. Laura Avatar
    Laura

    I understand that completely. Taking time. Sometimes a long time to think and ponder before moving on, just doubling back, looking from other perspectives. All angles. AND, THEN FEELING.

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  2. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    yes. how it would be if we could be in each others physical presence…be responding face to face, ear to ear. We would not just then, walk away
    to something else, something new,
    we would sit a while. think it all over. Wonder more.
    Ask questions. if i can get closer to that…..
    i want to try. Just thinking about trying gives me
    energy that i have not had for a while now…that has felt
    blocked

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  3. Maria Avatar
    Maria

    It is oke , it is on the order these times , i write words down on paper so it give me more clearity ,and let them free ,just bread with attenion connect me in the moment …for moments

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  4. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    As someone who does not blog, when I began commenting on blogs, I felt I had to do so with a kind of immediacy, when a particular post resonated. Over time, I came to know that pausing, stepping back, holding the thought, sitting with it, letting it suspend itself, was just as important. I would either come back to it later and engage in a response of let it go; did not mean that I did not appreciate the time and effort it took for the blogger to post. Sometimes, no response is needed because what has been read goes in deep and settles in a way that acknowledges understanding and connection. It becomes that aha moment that simply exists and, from my perspective, is enough. Still, if this were face to face, this would be felt and understood in a way that not responding might not be…don’t know if this has made any sense ?

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  5. Liz A Avatar
    Liz A

    whatever you do (or do not do) is what is right for you and for your blog … I will be here, even if/when I don’t comment

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  6. Deb G Avatar
    Deb G

    Well…you know I am here and read each post but don’t always comment (for a variety of reasons). And I know you always read the comments when I do leave them, even if you don’t respond or respond right away.
    What is different between blogging (or letter writing for that matter) and an “in person” conversation is the head nodding, the smile, the physical acknowledgment. In some situations I think emojis become that.
    Something more to think about. 🙂

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  7. CatherinE Avatar
    CatherinE

    I understand your need to pause. I’m very much a pauser. Often I read in the morning and feel nothing to say arise… then later in the day, I realize what I want to say in response. Sometimes I am able to go back and make the comment, sometimes not. Sometimes I wish there were more back-and-forth conversation within comments, but it’s awkward. Mostly I guess because it’s hard to know what’s there unless I continually revisit the post (or have notifications turned on, which I kind of avoid). Interesting to think more deeply about the whole commenting thing.

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  8. Mo Crow Avatar
    Mo Crow

    I love you (((Grace)))

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  9. Nancy Avatar
    Nancy

    Ah, the art and practice of reciprocal conversations. However you do it here Grace…and however that changes or looks over time is all okay. I had figured that the lack of responses was a battery issue more than anything 🙂
    My own commenting in places varies. Sometime the depth of thought prevents or I feel speechless, tired, not articulate…sometimes I come back later or again and again – to comment, to read others, to BE a part of the conversation.
    Things shift and change and it is all okay.
    Your words on asking questions and pausing had me thinking about how we give young children time to absorb, before expecting a response, as they are slower to process than adults. But, really…maybe we are all slower to process at different times in our lives. Just considering. xo

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  10. maria Avatar
    maria

    breath

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  11. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    you’re right. a lot of it for me is battery. sometimes
    enough, sometimes i need to ration it. and in your
    case particular, how you sometimes like to return and
    return to posts…and i always love that ….can FEEL
    you as you go through and think about things….but also
    it does use juice to follow you and be in response…so
    i just count on you knowing that i read each, and appreciate.
    i’m not sure what all is involved in all this for me….
    this morning i am thinking it’s just a lot in response to
    WEATHER…what’s happening OutSide the morning window, how
    that changes moment to moment sometimes, at least hourly often and how my need to be in response to that begins every day,,,,watching for those gaps in Rain for feeding, the
    attention i have to give and how all else is secondary.
    and you’re right…about children…Emrie was here the other day when her father called her…i was far enough away to not be able to hear the whole conversation, but there was part when she told him that Tay died…he asked a couple fast
    questions and she tried to respond but he was not understanding and then she added that Goats had died. it was what she felt important to tell him and it wasn’t connecting and he moved on to her favorite thing about school
    She wanted time. She even doesn’t mind silence. i thought about that…that silence was ok to her…PAUSE was ok. but there is this common urge to move along. She ended their
    conversation by saying Thank you for calling, Dad. I love you. and she does. Love him. this far away Dad.

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  12. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    breathe with attention…yes. attention. and with
    that word, with breathing with it, in~tention arises.
    what do i InTend? what is the Intention of the moment, the
    contents of the moment. To not lose the contents of
    moments

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  13. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    these are all questions that matter.
    immediacy
    letting it suspend itself
    yes….exactly. but then, to go back if it remains
    …this is what i am trying to find a way to.
    i just went back and see that all the way back to the first days of March….there are gaps in my response. and too,
    this goes through the days of Tay and then Sunny Ray where
    i was just lost in that. Maybe that’s part of what i’m
    feeling now…that i’ve been lost?
    but as nancy reminds me….i have limited battery power. To
    return and return isn’t really possible. Maybe i have to
    just accept that.

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  14. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    i know this Liz. you are the most Steadfast.
    and it’s really not at all about whether You comment…
    You being who is reading, it’s my own sense of taking
    time that is concerning me.
    now and then i get an email from someOne who does NOT
    comment that says I am always there and am always
    so touched by that.

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  15. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    yes. i do know. just as i am always there with each
    of your posts.
    i am just looking for something from my Self….asking
    something of my Self

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  16. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    this is exactly how it is for me. I read first thing in the morning, always, all the Blogs and also the comments
    here. i can’t respond immediately. i wish i could. it would be so much better, but i can’t. i need to carry
    things around for a while.
    part of what i am noticing is that there IS more back
    and forth, more between everyone here, and i love that
    am so happy when it happens
    awkward is such a beauty Full word…awkward…..

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  17. Marti Avatar
    Marti

    Yes and I think Nancy’s comment is righ, battery power. So I would ask that you give yourself permission to be ok with when you can return…we all know that you read our comments and we feel you beside us asking, sharing, instructing, taking it in and for me, it is more than enough.

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  18. Nancy Avatar
    Nancy

    Oh this story Grace. I remember calls from a faraway dad…one I barely knew. I wrote about it:
    https://pomegranatetrail.blogspot.com/2018/02/all-storms-shall-pass.html
    It’s always been hard for me to watch families do this distracted listening at pick up time. sigh.
    I thought a lot about you while driving and during the gaps today…imagined you racing out to feed before another onslaught! It has been pouring here. I think of you. xo

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  19. Laura Avatar
    Laura

    Yes. Make a connection, and not lose same connection. A friendship begun in the ether made real.

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  20. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    the connection of the days as they go…the lives…yours, mine, Ours as they exist, are alive

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  21. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    it’s not being away….it’s just staying in the same place. more than one day. more than one pic. Staying…if things ask for that….
    lingering
    and this would be from my own wish, but also from all any any who reply here…ia lingering being ASKED? is there more
    that would like to be said? looked at? considered? more that matters?

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  22. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    and i love you, Mo

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  23. grace Forrest Avatar
    grace Forrest

    thank you so so much for the link…the tenderness…..
    i need to read it more, again….
    Emrie and her Dad do face time…the video thing, so
    are much more present. But she wants to know him closer. Maybe that might happen this year. He is in Texas.

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  24. Catherine E Avatar
    Catherine E

    I agree about awkward! It is such a pleasure to use it, even to type it. Those two w’s. Thank you for slowing me down to notice.

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  25. Cindy Avatar
    Cindy

    “the whole commenting thing”
    I’m an old emailer. Whether it’s a comment or an email it IS a response that “rises up.” Words/feelings that bubble up (which I would naturally verbalize if in your presence) I find I can “comment.” Perfect!

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